Speak Up! - Guest Linda Gottlieb Licensed Therapist
Just a Few Case Examples Documenting How the PAS is Unquestionably Child Abuse via Linda J. Gottlieb, LMFT, LCSW-R, Author
Case 2) I was contacted by a young woman in her early 20s whom I had treated when she was 14. At that time, her father was incarcerated due to check fraud, and her mother was concerned about the girl's subsequent acting out behaviors. She was breaking curfew and disappearing on weekends. What prompted her current phone call to me was that she had become agoraphobic, being unable to leave the house unless accompanied by her mother. I was surprised at the dramatic reversal in her behavior to the other extreme. I inquired as to what was occurring between her parents. She stated that her parents had divorced, and her mother regularly conveyed anger and resentment to her whenever she wished to visit her father. Her mother expressed to her that her father could not have cared about her, otherwise he would not have committed his "capricious, thoughtless, and selfish behaviors" that warranted his incarceration. Her mother made her feel guilty every time she arranged to visit with her father. The girl's agoraphobia resolved the double bind in which the girl had found herself so that she need not consciously chose one parent over the other.
Case 3) A four year old boy witnessed his father's repeated verbal and physical abuse of his mother until she decided to leave the father. She encouraged frequent visits and contact between the boy and his father, but each time the boy returned to her he was verbally and physically abusive to her. He was suspended from school multiple times by the age of 9. By the age of 12, he had taken a knife to her throat on two occasions. After interminable court battles involving several therapists, child protective caseworkers, forensic evaluators, lawyers for the child, and a plethora of judges, the father was astoundingly awarded sole custody: after all, the boy had expressed his desire to live with his father----and, of course, professionals credit brainwashed minor children to know what is in their best interests! The father promptly prohibited any contact between his son and his mother. Today, at age 19, he is a walking advertisement for everything wrong with our adversarial approach to child custody and the detrimental effects on children of the PAS: the boy failed out and then dropped out of school at the age of 15; he used and sold drugs; he engaged in physical altercations with his father (a cautionary note to all alienators: when you teach a child to disrespect authority, it will come around to bite you as well;) and he several times "graduated" from the juvenile justice system. What future life has the PAS----facilitated by the professionals who intervene in child custody----presented to this child?