This is a subject that never needs leniency. If you don't want a sex offense charge to "ruin your life" then don't be a sex offender. False accusations make up a minuscule amount of cases, so this isn't a case of "a few bad apples spoiling the barrel." Rape culture in this country is still alive and well, so we need to keep regulations of this nature as up to date as we can. Let's focus on helping the actual victims of sexual assault/abuse instead of coddling the perpetrators.