Even those who seem to be "in favor" of this happening are expressing "no" because doing so seems "trivial" or "there are bigger things to worry about" -- which is all the more reason to get it behind us! This isn't trivial to the majority -- which is those of us who prefer gender neutral wording. Even cisgendered *I* prefer "spouse" as opposed to the oppressive way "wife" is used in so many laws still on state's books. The federal government needs to lead the way, and set standards, with the goal of gender equality. This isn't just a LGBTQ issue, it is a civil rights issue.