Christmas isn't about the birth of Jesus - Who was actually born on Sep. 11, 03 . It's a pagan holiday & as Christians my husband & I stopped celebrating it. It's a greedy holiday where all the stores are out to take your money. Just day no. Piece of cake. Make it a time for family and friends, play games, share meals & memories. But don't not talk to me all year & then expect a gift from me "just because it is Christmas after all." Besides, I give gifts of love (small or big) "just because" all year long. I think those "random acts of kindness" mean more than a once a yr. Christmas gift. Try it, you might like it. I don't give flowers after someone dies, bit while they're still alive - & often! Inexpensive from your local grocery store. But lights a heart up bigtime!