No. Absolutely not. The only people who should be talking about their fallen or missing comrades are the Veterans themselves. While I can certainly understand and appreciate wanting to have the immediate family members who are killed or missing in action to tell the stories about their loved ones, I can give you one unequitable reason why they should not. Because they weren’t there. There is a very profound difference between telling a story and sharing what actually happened. I grew up listening to my Father tell me stories of when he was in Vietnam. The battles he fought in, the friends he lost, the lives he took. Even as a Combat Veteran myself, do I feel I have the right to recount his stories? No. Because I wasn’t there. He was. Being a Veteran, especially being a Combat Veteran, the experiences you endure in war are very personal experiences. They are intimate. They are precious. They are your own. I could share with you my experiences of what I did and seen in Afghanistan, but would you be able to retell what I just told you? No you wouldn’t. Because you wouldn’t know the feeling of what it is like to have bullets crack over your head, or what it is like to see your Soldier’s bleed out in front of you, or what it is like at the end of the day when you sit and stare up at the sky so physically and emotionally drained and wonder how, just how, you are going to make it through another day. I certainly, do not and in any regard, mean to take away from anything the family of a Veteran might have to share. Everyone’s experience in war is different from the person next to them. How else can you explain why, after we got hit for the first time, some guys were able to sleep that night whereas I didn’t sleep for three days after the attack? Or why some guys were able to go home and reintegrate with their families and their lives just fine, whereas my wife divorced me and I was diagnosed with an 80% disability rating with PTSD? Everyone handles their experiences differently, which is why only those who were there should be able to participate in this project. It’s like my Father told me, and it’s like I tell people who care enough to listen, unless you were there then you have no idea.