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Marjorie Melgares-Cosgrove

How do I gain support to help me get the word out to a veterans group that the person they have as the president of their group is himself a rapist? I have the court records where he drugged and raped a 16 year old girl but after dragging out the case was allowed to plea bargain to sex with a minor and did one year in jail. I have been told by male veterans to "let it go" since 'he did his time!". I'm outraged he is allowed to represent veterans, and especially women veterans!

Blaine W Andrews
Blaine W Andrews
  • Marjorie Melgares-Cosgrove

Any existing Articles on this individual? Bring them to me and I'll fly them all over the Blagosphere!

Stacey Holleb Potts
Stacey Holleb Potts
  • Marjorie Melgares-Cosgrove

http://www.change.org/petitions

You can start your own petition and have it sent to the veterans's group.

Horre Phrost
Horre Phrost
  • Marjorie Melgares-Cosgrove

i second Stacey's idea

Sandie Sullivan
Sandie Sullivan
  • Marjorie Melgares-Cosgrove

Rape is a CRIME. It is not about sex it's about domination and control over someone and/or over class or culture. The penalty for committing such a hainous crime should be life in prison.

Lori Hoppe
Lori Hoppe
  • Marjorie Melgares-Cosgrove

i hope it never too anybody

Melindi Charle
Melindi Charle

Yes! there is no excuse for rape anywhere and anytime! but also don`t be open to it! Dress nicely! you can still look sexy and pretty, without having all your goods hanging out! talk and behave decently otherwise you can give the wrong impression! All i`m saying! I can carry on with this list of excuses! Protect your body and youreself! Rape is sometimes a friend or family member in your home! x melindi

Ryno De Lange
Ryno De Lange
  • Melindi Charle

Ek kan onthou. Wie is dit melindi?

Melindi Charle
Melindi Charle
  • Melindi Charle

dankie Wernher !! tussen werk met skoonheidskoninginne in my Buttefly Charity company en my eie dans en toneelstukke is dress code nie altyd maklik nie!! Maar ek glo n vrou of meisie kan n aura afgee van onmisbruik, amper half soos ek kan nie geboelie word nie !! Ek is vriendelik en warm maar nie promiskiues en maklik nie !! Ok nie n teiken of prooi nie, want ek is bewus van wat om my aangaan en voel veilig in my omgewing en is wakker vir tekens van gevaar!! Vrouens moet hulleself mooi oppas !!liefde melindi x

Hennie Liebenberg
Hennie Liebenberg
  • Melindi Charle

Real men don't rape! Verkragters sal enige flou verskoning onder die son uitdink want hulle slagoffers is tussen 1 en 80 en nog nooit n ou tannie van 80 gesien uitlokkend wees. Hulle is net die skuim van die aarde!

Melindi Charle
Melindi Charle
  • Melindi Charle

Jy is reg Hennie!! Daar is nie verskonings vir verkragting nie! Kan n verkragter se brein gered word? Ek glo nie ? Word hierdie monsters so gebore of geskep? Soos Fanie se dit is ewige verwoesting van die slagoffer se gees ! Al wat ek probeer se is dames vermy hierdie monsters, wees sterk in jou selfbeeld en identiteit, want hulle is orals !! daar is vrouens wat kruimel onder n kompliment en makliker prooi is !!x m

Andrea Leong
Andrea Leong
  • Melindi Charle

Melindi, if a women chooses to dress "with all her goods hanging out", maybe she's inviting meaningless one-night stands. But by definition, NO ONE INVITES RAPE.

You mentioned that rape is sometimes perpetrated by someone known to the victim. This is true most of the time, actually. The 10-25% of rapes that are perpetrated by strangers are not encouraged by the victim's clothes, or lack thereof. They happen to people who are unlucky to be in the wrong place at the wrong time --- like murders and random beatings.

Lindsey Beyeler
Lindsey Beyeler

Anyone have any thoughts about domestic rape? Being a victim of this myself, I often feel it was my fault only because I consented to marrying such a monster. My situation is hard to explain because it wasn't so much as a physical force into the many times that it happened, but more of a brainwashing type of thing. An obligation, a constant feeling of being pure evil if I didn't "consent." So, I never really said "no." He said he was some sort God and after a while, I believed him. I do feel I am at fault sometimes.

Mina Donato
Mina Donato
  • Lindsey Beyeler

That is sad, and it was NEVER YOUR fault. We were not put here for ANY abuse, not from ANYONE, and it says in the bible how to treat your wife and rape and abuse is not there.

Lindsey Beyeler
Lindsey Beyeler
  • Lindsey Beyeler

Thank you, Mina. :) I'm still coming to terms with it. He not only raped my body, but my spirit as well. Bringing religion into it did not help because I always felt if I didn't give in, I was condemning God. I still ask myself, "Why did I..." or "why didn't I..." because there really was no logic in our "marriage."

Leah Lacdao
Leah Lacdao
  • Lindsey Beyeler

None of it is your fault. I hope you are receiving professional counselling. It helps.

Horre Phrost
Horre Phrost
  • Lindsey Beyeler

http://victimsofpsychopaths.wordpress.com/traumatic-bonding/ this is a link that really helped me. what you experienced was called a Trauma bond. you were constantly in fear, while living with the abuser. that creates a bond that is stronger than most. there is a definition at the top of the page - and i bet, that like me, you will say "that is it. that is exactly it." not you fault, never was. take care

Fiona Moys
Fiona Moys
  • Lindsey Beyeler

I was raped by an ex boyfriend and his friend. It was drug induced and I had no idea till he told me what they he had done the previous night. I reported it some days after and was told by the investigator "that I have to take responsibility for what happened to me" evidence wasn't collected and his friend wasn't even spoken too! She told me I was a liar whilst I was doing my second statement and smirked about the low conviction rate! Needless to say they got away with it...they are the...

I was raped by an ex boyfriend and his friend. It was drug induced and I had no idea till he told me what they he had done the previous night. I reported it some days after and was told by the investigator "that I have to take responsibility for what happened to me" evidence wasn't collected and his friend wasn't even spoken too! She told me I was a liar whilst I was doing my second statement and smirked about the low conviction rate! Needless to say they got away with it...they are the rapists best friend. There was also a record of domestic violence and I now have to see him in family court as we have a daughter as I'm refusing him contact as she has made statements of abuse...even did a video statement and again nothing was done. I know rape is about power as I'd started university two weeks before, I was over the moon and so happy. He didn't like that, his psychiatric record which came out in court stated sociopathic tendencies. I'm expected leave my daughter with this shit.

Harry Tachell
Harry Tachell

Rape is not about sex it is about power.

Paula O'Donnell Beisley
Paula O'Donnell Beisley
  • Harry Tachell

Yes I agree, it's actually one of the most awful crimes against humanity and it happens every day.

Rudi Affolter
Rudi Affolter

Pretty overwhelming. I guess those voting Yes or Maybe must be the rapists.

Lisa Pedersen
Lisa Pedersen

Never the fault of the victim.

Julianna Anda
Julianna Anda

Rape is misogyny at its worst. God has nothing to do with it & any fool who believes otherwise should become a priest and keep away from us women. Having a vagina is no more a crime than having black, brown, red or yellow skin. Humanitarianism needs to make a major revival. Underneath it all we are all humans deserving respect.

Debbie Carroll
Debbie Carroll

I know a man who told me that if the woman gives him an erection, she owes him to take care of him. Excuse me? I never did tell him what a crock that is. A man needs to control his own body. Can my response even come close to changing the mind of someone like this?

Kristyene Boreland
Kristyene Boreland

..Rape is a violation of another...no excuses.

Helen Gi
Helen Gi

How can we blame somebody for the actions of another? We are each in control of our own actions and rapists have only themselves to blame for their crimes.

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