How do I gain support to help me get the word out to a veterans group that the person they have as the president of their group is himself a rapist? I have the court records where he drugged and raped a 16 year old girl but after dragging out the case was allowed to plea bargain to sex with a minor and did one year in jail. I have been told by male veterans to "let it go" since 'he did his time!". I'm outraged he is allowed to represent veterans, and especially women veterans!
Any existing Articles on this individual? Bring them to me and I'll fly them all over the Blagosphere!
You can start your own petition and have it sent to the veterans's group.
i second Stacey's idea
Rape is a CRIME. It is not about sex it's about domination and control over someone and/or over class or culture. The penalty for committing such a hainous crime should be life in prison.
i hope it never too anybody
Yes! there is no excuse for rape anywhere and anytime! but also don`t be open to it! Dress nicely! you can still look sexy and pretty, without having all your goods hanging out! talk and behave decently otherwise you can give the wrong impression! All i`m saying! I can carry on with this list of excuses! Protect your body and youreself! Rape is sometimes a friend or family member in your home! x melindi
Ek kan onthou. Wie is dit melindi?
dankie Wernher !! tussen werk met skoonheidskoninginne in my Buttefly Charity company en my eie dans en toneelstukke is dress code nie altyd maklik nie!! Maar ek glo n vrou of meisie kan n aura afgee van onmisbruik, amper half soos ek kan nie geboelie word nie !! Ek is vriendelik en warm maar nie promiskiues en maklik nie !! Ok nie n teiken of prooi nie, want ek is bewus van wat om my aangaan en voel veilig in my omgewing en is wakker vir tekens van gevaar!! Vrouens moet hulleself mooi oppas !!liefde melindi x
Real men don't rape! Verkragters sal enige flou verskoning onder die son uitdink want hulle slagoffers is tussen 1 en 80 en nog nooit n ou tannie van 80 gesien uitlokkend wees. Hulle is net die skuim van die aarde!
Jy is reg Hennie!! Daar is nie verskonings vir verkragting nie! Kan n verkragter se brein gered word? Ek glo nie ? Word hierdie monsters so gebore of geskep? Soos Fanie se dit is ewige verwoesting van die slagoffer se gees ! Al wat ek probeer se is dames vermy hierdie monsters, wees sterk in jou selfbeeld en identiteit, want hulle is orals !! daar is vrouens wat kruimel onder n kompliment en makliker prooi is !!x m
Melindi, if a women chooses to dress "with all her goods hanging out", maybe she's inviting meaningless one-night stands. But by definition, NO ONE INVITES RAPE.
You mentioned that rape is sometimes perpetrated by someone known to the victim. This is true most of the time, actually. The 10-25% of rapes that are perpetrated by strangers are not encouraged by the victim's clothes, or lack thereof. They happen to people who are unlucky to be in the wrong place at the wrong time --- like murders and random beatings.
Anyone have any thoughts about domestic rape? Being a victim of this myself, I often feel it was my fault only because I consented to marrying such a monster. My situation is hard to explain because it wasn't so much as a physical force into the many times that it happened, but more of a brainwashing type of thing. An obligation, a constant feeling of being pure evil if I didn't "consent." So, I never really said "no." He said he was some sort God and after a while, I believed him. I do feel I am at fault sometimes.
That is sad, and it was NEVER YOUR fault. We were not put here for ANY abuse, not from ANYONE, and it says in the bible how to treat your wife and rape and abuse is not there.
Thank you, Mina. :) I'm still coming to terms with it. He not only raped my body, but my spirit as well. Bringing religion into it did not help because I always felt if I didn't give in, I was condemning God. I still ask myself, "Why did I..." or "why didn't I..." because there really was no logic in our "marriage."
None of it is your fault. I hope you are receiving professional counselling. It helps.
http://victimsofpsychopaths.wordpress.com/traumatic-bonding/ this is a link that really helped me. what you experienced was called a Trauma bond. you were constantly in fear, while living with the abuser. that creates a bond that is stronger than most. there is a definition at the top of the page - and i bet, that like me, you will say "that is it. that is exactly it." not you fault, never was. take care
I was raped by an ex boyfriend and his friend. It was drug induced and I had no idea till he told me what they he had done the previous night. I reported it some days after and was told by the investigator "that I have to take responsibility for what happened to me" evidence wasn't collected and his friend wasn't even spoken too! She told me I was a liar whilst I was doing my second statement and smirked about the low conviction rate! Needless to say they got away with it...they are the...
I was raped by an ex boyfriend and his friend. It was drug induced and I had no idea till he told me what they he had done the previous night. I reported it some days after and was told by the investigator "that I have to take responsibility for what happened to me" evidence wasn't collected and his friend wasn't even spoken too! She told me I was a liar whilst I was doing my second statement and smirked about the low conviction rate! Needless to say they got away with it...they are the rapists best friend. There was also a record of domestic violence and I now have to see him in family court as we have a daughter as I'm refusing him contact as she has made statements of abuse...even did a video statement and again nothing was done. I know rape is about power as I'd started university two weeks before, I was over the moon and so happy. He didn't like that, his psychiatric record which came out in court stated sociopathic tendencies. I'm expected leave my daughter with this shit.
I don't think the victim is ever at fault. The rapist *always* has the power to make the final decision: Do I or don't I?
I do, however, believe some (*some*) victims could have been more circumspect regarding their behavior in certain scenarios. Would it have ensured they would not be raped? No, by no means. But it might have stacked the odds a bit more in their favor.
Because, in the end, women aren't mindless, defenseless creatures who need "endangered species" status. It's up to us...
Because, in the end, women aren't mindless, defenseless creatures who need "endangered species" status. It's up to us to recognize our own power to protect ourselves - and to USE IT.
it can't be up to us. we are not raping each other.
it is up to the man to not rape, and more importantly, the society to not help them get away with it by saying it is up to women to stop their own attacks. women are raped wearing burkas, nun habits, sweats, and parkas. they are most often raped in their own home or the home of a friend where they should reasonably expect to be safe. men are told from boyhood "she asked for it" and what that translates to is " you can get away with it,...
it can't be up to us. we are not raping each other.
it is up to the man to not rape, and more importantly, the society to not help them get away with it by saying it is up to women to stop their own attacks. women are raped wearing burkas, nun habits, sweats, and parkas. they are most often raped in their own home or the home of a friend where they should reasonably expect to be safe. men are told from boyhood "she asked for it" and what that translates to is " you can get away with it, they will blame it on her". the ones who like the idea of hurting women use that, and the ones who don't still use it as an excuse to not help, to not stand against the men that rape.
this is not about women - we are just the targets. it is about men, and until men take responsibility for how they talk, how they act and what they do, and how all of that affects women, women will continue to be raped.
and blamed for it.
Do you say the same thing about thieves? It's not the thief's fault, but the victim's? If people decide they want to steal or violate something, they do it. It is not ever the victim's fault. The victim can't control what other people want, think, desire, and do.
Right On Jessica!
The government will tell us next we need to by cheap and worthless items and no one will want them. So they will have an excuse. But don't take there baseball sighted by babe Ruth
Rape is not about sex it is about power.
Yes I agree, it's actually one of the most awful crimes against humanity and it happens every day.
And as for the three percent that said yes rape could be the fault of the victim and the four percent that said maybe it could be the fault of the victim, would you say the same thing about victims of lynching? That it was their fault because they did not look and act white enough? What goes through the minds of people like you?
It does not matter if the victim took drugs, took off all of her (or his) clothes and passed out naked, it is still wrong to rape them. It is never the victim's fault. The victim may make bad choices, but that does not give anyone a right to take advantage of them or excuse wrongs done by others.
Rape is a crime always period No discussion possible That would be like saying "I killed someone a little bit "
I still blame my self and my mother blamed me she said i was the one to blame for my father raping me mor than 30 years ago so ye i still blame myself and i am now 52