A great cause! lets understand that women as well as men can find themselves victims of domestic violence , and DV can ruin entire families and innocent children please support efforts to understand and treat this problem in our world.
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this is a very good cause.
Sometimes there are scars that can't be seen.
I have volunteer for the agency during one year. Very good agency that support both men and women. Especially more toward men than women. Excellent agency..
Now, in our final countdown, we feature short stories from callers and e-mailers as promised in a recent post. We call them the “Parenting Papers”. They are intended to stimulate attendance at next month’s event because our court victims apparently believe that it’s someone else’s job to protest for them- and of course reform will not occur with this kind of lame attitude. These stories are based on real events. However, names and content have been edited to protect the sources. Our third...
Now, in our final countdown, we feature short stories from callers and e-mailers as promised in a recent post. We call them the “Parenting Papers”. They are intended to stimulate attendance at next month’s event because our court victims apparently believe that it’s someone else’s job to protest for them- and of course reform will not occur with this kind of lame attitude. These stories are based on real events. However, names and content have been edited to protect the sources. Our third story of this series, Day 26, is entitled: “Willie the Wusse”.
Willie Wusse loved attention. In high school he was the basketball star and football quarterback. Never quite good enough for professional sports, however, Willie eventually settled into jobs as a phys-ed teacher and bouncer at a popular local club. He never liked the idea of a long term romance, but he loved his twin boys of a five year relationship. That ended not long ago when his woman decided that a man was needed who would not disrespect her as often as Willie had.
Despite a flexible childrearing arrangement, it was only a matter of time when tensions would flare up over lovers and parenting substitutes. As one of the sisters explained, “Girl, you can’t let your man go around havin’ a good time with money that needs to go to yer kids, and what they doin’ with that nasty bee anyway, makin’ like the children are hers?” Of course, the instigator knew nothing about Willie’s new girlfriend. She was simply parroting the gossip of unhappy people jealous of others who don’t live down to their levels.
But the real irony of it all was that Willie had given his ex everything that she demanded, full control of the children, and just enough money so that he could move on with his own life. The new woman was actually paying most of his bills so that the boys could have a place to “visit” as “the law” decreed it. The last thing Willie needed was a custody battle to get the “respect” he deserved as a good father. He wisely understood that money spent on lawyers was wasted because he faced multiple prejudices in America’s domestic relations courts.
For starters, Willie was black and male, and everyone knew that parenting added yet another roadblock to justice. Before he had a chance to present anything, he was stereotyped as the proverbial dead beat dad. His burden of proof was artificially elevated in this manner because of conditions acquired at birth. No half-baked lawyer was going to advise him of this as long as there was a fee to be taken. So why take a chance of losing his cool and getting a rap for some crime caused by a jealous woman exploiting a racist and sexist court system?
To put it bluntly, Willie was doing his best to live the life that society had in mind for him. And when Obama came out every Father’s Day preaching about African-American fathers who needed to step up to the plate, Willie knew that his president’s Harvard education hadn’t done him much good, not on this subject anyway. Willie had it in mind to make his plight known to the NAACP, or to join in a protest on Washington, but for all his show, Willie was quite the wusse when it came to standing up for his God-given rights.
Recently Willie showed it all off to the brothers at the gym.“Protest?” he laughed,“you gotta be kidding me, I got no time for it. That’s some body else’s job”. In fact all the boys thought the same, that’s why lawyers reaped the benefits, such that Willie’s great grandfather might have turned over in his grave. You see, the elder Willie protested with the likes of Martin Luther King Jr. when no one had money and lives were always at risk. So when Willie Wusse got six months instead of the usual 90 days on a first time child support offense, no one was there to hear his gripes. In Willie’s words, “that was some body else’s job.”.
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Dr. Phil Show: Woman Reluctantly Admits Lying About Domestic Violence To Jail Husband For 10 Months.
The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) is up for reauthorization this year.
Despite its innocent-sounding name, the problem with VAWA is that it assails the family, the Constitution, and the economy. And it has failed to live up to its promises to help women – see: http://www.saveservices.org/downloads/VAWA-Has-It-Delivered-on-Its-Promises-to-Women.
Momentum is rapidly building as we continue to receive daily feedback from across the country for the Founding Fathers March scheduled for April 20, 2012 in Washington, D.C., which seeks to end discrimination against fathers and non-custodial mothers in childrearing laws, among other abuses. However, it’s time to get serious!
We are in urgent need of regional leaders to start organizing and growing the numbers for this event within their respective communities. There is simply no way that...
We are in urgent need of regional leaders to start organizing and growing the numbers for this event within their respective communities. There is simply no way that Dr. Koziol can do this entirely on his own without your help! The time for talking is over, it’s time for ACTION!
Our first priority is to have anyone who plans on participating in the march, register their full name, address, email, and area code/telephone number for communications purposes. All contact information will remain CONFIDENTIAL and will NOT be shared with outside parties. In addition, your information will show Dr. Koziol just who is serious about reforming current oppressive domestic relations laws. Once we receive your information, a steering committee will be formed to help coordinate the event. Your contact information should be sent to [email protected] no later than January 31, 2012. Be sure to include the words “Founding Fathers March Contact Information” in the subject line. Also, please feel free to include questions to be compiled for future communications regarding this event.
Our second priority is fundraising. Dr. Koziol has sacrificed a lucrative career in law which resulted in retaliation for taking up this particular cause for non-custodial parents. The truth is, he can no longer afford to pursue current test litigation cases and challenge current laws on the behalf of “parents similarly situated” without the necessary support of more than just a handful of constituents. Rest assured, he does not wish to abandon his efforts for this movement, but the time has come where he needs to reevaluate his future involvement in such. Therefore, we are asking anyone who plans on participating in the march to make a voluntary donation of at least $25 or more to help cover the cost and burden of litigation expenses that he has incurred on our behalf.
Please share this communication in its entirety with your contact list. Here is the link: http://wp.me/pXgi5-on.
RE: Reckless and False Statements Made to the Senate Judiciary.
Committee by Dr. Phillip McGraw
Honorable Patrick Leahy.
Chairman, Senate Judiciary Committee.
Honorable Chuck Grassley.
Ranking Member, Senate Judiciary Committee.
Dear Chairman Leahy and Ranking Member Grassley:
Stop Abusive and Violent Environments – SAVE – is a victim advocacy organization working for evidence-based solutions to domestic violence. We are writing in regard to the recent July 13, 2011 Judiciary Committee...
Stop Abusive and Violent Environments – SAVE – is a victim advocacy organization working for evidence-based solutions to domestic violence. We are writing in regard to the recent July 13, 2011 Judiciary Committee hearing on the Violence Against Women.
To place this important issue in proper context, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control has conducted two national surveys about intimate partner aggression:
• A survey of high school students found 10% of teenage girls had initiated dating violence, compared to only 9% of teenage boys. (I)
• A study of persons 18-28 years old concluded that females were the perpetrators in 70% of cases of one-way aggression. (II)
These government findings have been confirmed by over 250 scholarly investigations that show “women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners.” (III).
The problem of female-initiated domestic violence recently made front-page news with the recent California case in which a woman hideously drugged, bound, and castrated her husband. (IV)
Against this background of research and national news, Dr. Phillip McGraw (a.k.a. “Dr. Phil”) was invited to be the lead witness for the recent Judiciary Committee hearing on the Violence Against Women Act. (V)
During the course of his testimony, Dr. McGraw repeatedly made statements that were one-sided, misleading, unverifiable, and/or demonstrably false:
1. “2,000,000 women a year are victimized [by] being beaten, terrorized, and intimidated.” – This statement, based on research conducted by Murray Straus at the University of New Hampshire, found equal numbers of men were also victimized by domestic violence. Why did Dr. McGraw choose to cherry-pick the research?
2. “In too many situations violence against women, young and old, is almost treated.
as an ‘acceptable crime.’” This statement is misleading and false. Research shows the vast majority (nine out of 10) of Americans view wife-beating as unacceptable. (VI) (Ironically, two out of 10 of persons still view domestic violence against men as acceptable.)
3. “Domestic violence is now the most common cause of injury to women ages 15 to 44.” –This statement, which has been previously refuted by a leading family violence researcher, (VII) is a scurrilous misrepresentation of the facts. According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control:
a. In 1996, motor vehicle accidents and accidental falls were the leading causes of injury to women ages 15-44. Domestic violence ranked as the ninth cause of injury. (VIII)
b. From 2004-2007, the leading causes of injury to women 15-24 years of age were falls, motor vehicle accidents, and overexertion, in that order. For women in the 25-44 year age group, the leading causes of injury were falls, overexertion, and motor vehicle accidents: (IX).
4. "In fact, among teenage girls who are killed, nearly one-third is killed by a boyfriend or former boyfriend" – SAVE staff undertook an extensive search to locate the source of this statement, including the FBI Supplementary Homicide Reports. The source could not be located. Therefore, we conclude this unverifiable claim is a “factoid from nowhere.”.
5. Through use of gender-biased examples and terminology (e.g., “women,” “mothers,” “girls,” etc.), Dr. McGraw painted a picture of domestic violence that is oblivious to three decades of research, which shows approximate symmetry in the perpetration of intimate partner aggression between men and women.
6. Dr. McGraw’s testimony often relied on emotion-laden phraseology and photographic images that were designed to play on persons’ feelings and passions. In conclusion, Dr. McGraw’s testimony was systematically biased, scientifically deficient, and deeply flawed. His testimony is reminiscent of the Jim Crow rape scares that focused on black-on-white rape, while studiously ignoring the problem of white-on white sexual assault.
Effective policy-making rests on sound research and unbiased evidence. Dr. McGraw’s statements are reckless because they could serve to justify and promote federal abuse reduction policies that are ineffective, neglectful of civil rights, and even harmful.
SAVE’s report, Most DV Educational Programs Lack Accuracy, Balance, and Truthfulness, documents how many claims by representatives of domestic violence organizations lack any basis in scientific fact. (X) Ensuring the accuracy of domestic violence statements made to policymakers, the public, and criminal justice personnel should be an important public policy objective. We are therefore requesting that the Senate Judiciary Committee correct the numerous misleading, unverifiable, and erroneous statements of fact that permeate Dr. McGraw’s testimony. We furthermore request that the Judiciary Committee give consideration to the VAWA reauthorization including provisions to require third-party accreditation of all government-supported domestic violence training, education, and public awareness programs.
We look forward to working with you during the upcoming months to assure the prompt reauthorization and revitalization of the Violence Against Women Act.
Stop Abusive and Violent Environments (SAVE).
P.O. Box 1221
Rockville, MD 20849.
Email: [email protected]
SAVE is a 501(c)3 victim-advocacy organization working for evidence-based solutions to domestic violence.
Cc: All Members of the Senate.
IV) http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/07/12/catherine-kieu-becker-cut-off-husbandspenis_ n_895771.html.
IX) www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/series/sr_10/sr10_241.pdf , Table 4.