Children's Bill of Rights
WHEN PARENTS ARE NOT TOGETHER
Every kid has rights, particularly when mom and dad are
splitting up. Below are some things parents shouldn't forget -- and kids
shouldn't let them -- when the family is in the midst of a break-up.
You have the right to love both your parents. You also have
the right to be loved by both of them. That means you shouldn't feel guilty
about wanting to see your dad or your mom at any time. It's important for you
to have both parents in your life, particularly during difficult times such as
a break-up of your parents.
You do not have to choose one parent over the other. If you
have an opinion about which parent you want to live with, let it be known. But
nobody can force you to make that choice. If your parents can't work it out, a
judge may make the decision for them.
You're entitled to all the feelings you're having. Don't be
embarrassed by what you're feeling. It is scary when your parents break up, and
you're allowed to be scared. Or angry. Or sad. Or whatever.
You have the right to be in a safe environment. This means
that nobody is allowed to put you in danger, either physically or emotionally.
If one of your parents is hurting you, tell someone -- either your other parent
or a trusted adult like a teacher.
You don't belong in the middle of your parents' break-up.
Sometimes your parents may get so caught up in their own problems that they
forget that you're just a kid, and that you can't handle their adult worries.
If they start putting you in the middle of their dispute, remind them that it's
their fight, not yours.
Grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins are still part of
your life. Even if you're living with one parent, you can still see relatives
on your other parent's side. You'll always be a part of their lives, even if
your parents aren't together anymore.
You have the right to be a child. Kids shouldn't worry about
adult problems. Concentrate on your school work, your friends, activities, etc.
Your mom and dad just need your love. They can handle the rest.
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT AND DON'T BLAME YOURSELF.
----Special Concerns of Children Committee, March, 1998
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