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HOW TO HELP SOMEONE IN AN ABUSIVE SITUATION
1. Bring up the subject. Don't be afraid to let her know your concerns. Say that you can see what's happening and that you want to help. Let her know she is not alone.
2. Acknowledge that she's in a very difficult, scary situation.
Let her know that it's not her fault that she's being battered. Encourage her
to express her feelings of hurt or anger or humiliation. Remind her that the
batterer, not the victim, is responsible for the abuse. Remember that it may be
difficult for her to talk about it with you.
3. Don't buy into her denial. If she refuses to acknowledge that she's in a dangerous situation, let her know that you believe she is, and that you are concerned for her safety.
4. Respect her right to make her own decisions. Let her
find her own way to her decisions. Don't start with what you think she should
do, or insist that she follow your plan.
5. Discuss this booklet with her. Help her identify the
abusive behavior she is suffering. Go over the Power & Control and Equality
wheels. Talk about shelters and the hotline.
6. Go with her. If she needs medical care, go with her. If
she is going to the police, to court, or to see a lawyer, offer to go along.
But let her do the talking.
7. Plan safe strategies with her. If she is contemplating
leaving an abusive relationship, help her to develop her "safety plan." Make
sure she's comfortable with the plan. Never encourage her to follow a plan that
she doesn't consider "safe."
8. Donate to YesICANorg. Yes ICAN
support groups are frequented by those who are in an abusive situation and want
a way out. We provide them with the necessary support and resources to help
them through the transition. A tax deductible donation to Yes ICAN will help us
keep our facilitated support groups open to these victims of abuse, and allow
us to open more groups for those who need them.
*In this section we refer to a female victim because the overwhelming majority of domestic violence victims are women. However, these guidelines apply equally to male victims.
If you want to participate on #8, Yes
ICAN is having a Facebook challenge for the month of October. This challenge is
asking that all of our wonderful supporters to share with ten of their friends
about Yes ICAN and, how this organization is working to break the silence and cycle of abuse throughout the world. Then, we further challenge you to ask these
friends to donate just $10.00 to Yes ICAN. If we all do this, I believe we can
raise over $5000.00 in October. I believe that we are up for this challenge and
that, together, we can move mountains. Can we do it? YES WE CAN!!! So, let's to
this!!! Here's where you can go to donate
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