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A pledge from the campaign to


Pledge to

Donate $10 to Yes ICAN

This pledge closed almost 2 years ago

How this will help


1. Bring up the subject. Don't be afraid to let her know your concerns. Say that you can see what's happening and that you want to help. Let her know she is not alone.

2. Acknowledge that she's in a very difficult, scary situation. Let her know that it's not her fault that she's being battered. Encourage her to express her feelings of hurt or anger or humiliation. Remind her that the batterer, not the victim, is responsible for the abuse. Remember that it may be difficult for her to talk about it with you.

3. Don't buy into her denial. If she refuses to acknowledge that she's in a dangerous situation, let her know that you believe she is, and that you are concerned for her safety.

4. Respect her right to make her own decisions. Let her find her own way to her decisions. Don't start with what you think she should do, or insist that she follow your plan.

5. Discuss this booklet with her. Help her identify the abusive behavior she is suffering. Go over the Power & Control and Equality wheels. Talk about shelters and the hotline.

6. Go with her. If she needs medical care, go with her. If she is going to the police, to court, or to see a lawyer, offer to go along. But let her do the talking.

7. Plan safe strategies with her. If she is contemplating leaving an abusive relationship, help her to develop her "safety plan." Make sure she's comfortable with the plan. Never encourage her to follow a plan that she doesn't consider "safe."

8. Donate to YesICANorg. Yes ICAN support groups are frequented by those who are in an abusive situation and want a way out. We provide them with the necessary support and resources to help them through the transition. A tax deductible donation to Yes ICAN will help us keep our facilitated support groups open to these victims of abuse, and allow us to open more.

*In this section we refer to a female victim because the overwhelming majority of domestic violence victims are women. However, these guidelines apply equally to male victims.

If you want to participate on #8, Yes ICAN is having a Facebook challenge for the month of October. This challenge is asking that all of our wonderful supporters to share with ten of their friends about Yes ICAN and, how this organization is working to break the silence and cycle of abuse throughout the world.  Then, we further challenge you to ask these friends to donate just $10.00 to Yes ICAN. If we all do this, I believe we can raise over $5000.00 in October. I believe that we are up for this challenge and that, together, we can move mountains. Can we do it? YES WE CAN!!! So, let's to this!!! Here's where you can go to donate:


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