My ex-husband is a domestic abuser. He is also a family court sheriff's deputy. He is literally paid to protect the very judge assigned to our case. The judge thinks she's known him for the past 15 years. She views him as her protector. Despite this massive conflict of interest, the judge refuses to grant a change in venue to any neighboring courthouse where my ex-husband is not the judge’s protection. So, the abuse continues.
The assaults continue. The groping and vulgar, humiliating propositions continue. The stalking and threats of more violence continue. My son is being told his mother is going to die, complete with detailed accounts of how I will meet my demise. He is describing being exposed to highly inappropriate perverse material, extremely disrespectful toward women in nature. I am told anyone foolish enough to ask me on a date will be killed or severely maimed. He sends me threats -in graphic detail of how he plans to carry out the torture of any man foolish enough to ask me on a date.
Our judge continues to dismiss every episode. My ex-husband is allowed to repeatedly violate the court order and to continue to put my son in harm’s way. There are no consequences – even when there are extremely credible witnesses who would testify. We can’t even seek psyche evaluations as part of the custody process. The ultimate decision still lies with the judge, not the psychologist.
Based on the mere appearance of impropriety alone, our judge should have recused herself and granted the change in venue. However; her protector fought the transfer from "his courthouse" and she obliged him.
A large part of the role of a sheriff's deputy is to provide protection to the judges within the county courthouse. These judges show their appreciation to deputies by treating them to meals and giving gifts, such as free box seats to sporting events. They share family photos and believe they are well acquainted, as most co-workers.
It is our Constitutional right to a fair trial with an impartial judge. When domestic violence is a factor, partners of sheriff’s deputies should be granted an option to change the venue to a neighboring courthouse. Violence shouldn’t have to be a way of life because the perpetrator is a sheriff’s deputy and the judge’s protection.
Much of this violence would cease if my abuser didn’t work at the courthouse. Take away some of the abusers comfort level by imposing accountability and a level playing field, and the abuse may lessen. As long as my ex feels he has the judges and other staff in his hip pocket, the abuse will continue. He emphatically insists no one will ever help me in “his courthouse.” I agree with him.
A new law needs to be enacted granting victims of domestic violence at the hands of sheriff’s deputies, the right to change the venue to a courthouse where the alleged abuser is not the judge’s protection. It is fully understood some make false claims of violence in relationships. However; to punish those of us who are truly victims of domestic violence because of them, is ignorant, inexcusable and unacceptable.
Everyone in our country deserves to have the right to a fair trial with an impartial judge. We move high profile cases so suspected murders receive a fair trial. Yet, my son and I are repeatedly ignored and abused because our abuser is the judge's protection.
It is our Constitutional right to a fair trial with an impartial judge. When domestic violence is a factor, partners of sheriff's deputies should be granted an option to change the venue to a neighboring courthouse. Violence shouldn't have to be a way of life because the perpetrator is a sheriff's deputy and the judge's protection.
A new law needs to be enacted granting victims of domestic violence at the hands of sheriff's deputies, the right to change the venue to a courthouse where the alleged abuser is not the judge's protection.
PLEASE HELP END THE ABUSE.